A little bit of me
I am very excited to share with you my journey into mommyhood.
I grew up as an independent, strong and adventurous woman, and motherhood was not going to change who I was.
Everything about Mommyhood is an adventure; I have learned so much about myself in the last 6 years. I know that I can’t do it all. I’ve accepted that my house will be messy from time to time.
My everyday focus is to teach my daughters to love life and overcome difficulties.
When we moved to the USA, my biggest challenge was to learn English. Even today, as I write my blog posts, Emma starts to correct my English. I’m a bit ashamed of my English, but at least my brain can now switch from French to Spanish and English easily. My writing and the French accent are still work in process. So please be patient if something is not 100% grammatically correct.
I am an introvert person. I was alone in the big city of Chicago for days while Conrad was traveling for work. I was blessed that Conrad owned two dogs and I had to take care of them; we would go out and explore the city together. Everybody loves puppies, and a lot of people asked questions about them, funny enough that’s how I started learning English.
Then with a baby on the way, I had to learn even more. I am so thankful for the fantastic neighbors we had in our building and for all the new friends I had made via Bump Club and Beyond. I was terrified of the pregnancy and a new baby arriving soon. Lindsay Pinchuk, pregnant herself at that time, created her company (BCB) with the mission “to connect the moms and moms-to-be with the best products, resources, experts and most importantly, with each other.” It was great, and it influenced me to be the mother I am today.
I arrived in the USA with a very particular visa (H4), qualifying me as a dependent spouse of the “legal alien.” That visa didn’t allow me to work. (the law changed in 2015 now dependent spouses are finally allowed to work).
So with my brand new Masters Degree, I became a stay home wife and a proud dog owner.
When our wonderful Emma arrived, she made me a Mom and a Stay Home Mom. As much as it was hard at the beginning to not be working, I don’t regret any of it. Now I feel very blessed to have the opportunity to be with the girls all day, every day for all the years before Kindergarten. And I hace so much respesct for working mom.
Having a competitive triathlete in the family brought a new dynamic. It isn’t always easy to find the right balance between work, training, and family but we have learned to make it work. I know that triathlon means a lot to Conrad and his job is very demanding, so I plan around his training and work schedule (involves a lot of travel). Sometimes, when he has time we can do family activities, but if not I am on my own with the girls. I have learned to just do about anything with them, from dentist appointments to emergency veterinary visits at midnight in a snowstorm to hikes and other outdoors activities, the girls always tagged along, it’s not like they had a choice anyway.
Conrad’s family lives in Kentucky, mine in France, and until we moved to the neighborhood we are now, it was all me. But it has created a special bond with the girls. Conrad always says that both girls are a lot like me, both the good and bad.
He amazes me, with the dedication his all 3 (work, family, and triathlon) he wakes up very early to make sure he’s back for breakfast, always trying to squeeze some time with us, on my side I need to do my part to make it easier for him.